Thinking you might be autistic?
Let’s figure out what that means for you!
Neuroaffirming coaching
Questioning, self-diagnosed, and professionally diagnosed autistics all welcome
Tailored to your needs
Personalised support for women and non-binary folk who were socialised as female
I can help you understand yourself, meet your needs, and finally feel okay just being you
It’s time to start trusting yourself!
There’s so much to untangle when you realise autism might be part of your story
If you’re questioning whether you might be autistic, chances are you’ve spent a lifetime feeling different but not knowing why. You learned to blend in, to shrink yourself, to be what the world expected. But deep down, something never quite fit.
Then one day, you saw autism through a new lens–and everything shifted
Suddenly, autism wasn’t just a distant or abstract concept–it felt like something that might finally explain you.
Seen through this lens, a lifetime of memories started to click into place. Your story about who you are started to take on a new shape.
You started noticing things in real time too: little quirks, habits, or sensitivities you’d never questioned before. Is this stimming? Is this what overstimulation feels like?
You dove into research, reading, watching, absorbing everything you could.
But understanding yourself better is just the beginning
You’re left with so many questions:
- Will I ever stop feeling so drained by everyday life?
- What if I unmask and no one likes me?
- Do I really belong in autistic spaces?
Imagine moving through the world with confidence, ease, and the deep knowing that there was never anything wrong with you
Realising you might be autistic is a huge step forward.
The journey back to yourself begins with this recognition that you have a unique experience of the world–regardless of any labels or diagnoses.
I want you to know–you are already enough
Everything you need to thrive–on your own terms–is already within you.
Your unmasked self has always been there—self-assured, creative, and authentically you!
But somewhere along the way, you learned to hide her. To push your true feelings so far down inside you that you didn’t even recognise them anymore. Your joy, your rage—the whole spectrum of human experience–it’s all still inside you, waiting to be heard.
The path back to you
Reconnecting with your unmasked self doesn’t happen all at once. But every small moment of self-connection brings you closer.
Every time you tune into what’s inside—your emotions, physical sensations, and distress signals—you take another step closer to the person you’ve always been.
So much mainstream advice wasn’t built with autistic people in mind. You might have been told to “just take a break,” “be more confident,” or “trust your gut”—but when you’re living with sensory overload, a lifetime of masking, or a deep disconnection from your own needs, those strategies fall flat.
My approach is built for brains like yours. It’s not about changing who you are—it’s about learning to honour who you’ve always been.
That’s why we start by tuning into what your body and emotions are telling you—rather than trying to follow what worked for someone else.
Step by step, you can move closer to the life that was always meant for you
You can begin to:
- Understand your unique sensory and emotional needs—so you no longer have to numb yourself just to get through the day
- Untangle and release old emotions—letting go of everything that’s held you down or kept you small
- Ride the waves of emotion as they come—staying present and honouring yourself without getting overwhelmed
- Work with your brain, not against it—building a life that supports you, not the one you think you “should” have.
You’ve kept your brilliance from the world, and denied yourself a sense of ease. But I promise you, there is a way through–to ease, self-trust, and finally feeling at home in yourself.
If this journey resonates, you’re not alone
Hi, I’m Ellen!
I help women who’ve realised they’re autistic—or are wondering if they might be—make sense of their experiences, trust themselves, and finally feel at home in their own skin.
For years, I thought I was just too sensitive, too anxious. But when I realised I was autistic, everything changed—I stopped trying to fix myself and started learning how to truly support my brain.
Now, I help other women find their way back to themselves
My coaching blends deep emotional work with practical, actionable tools–so you can understand yourself, meet your needs, and finally feel okay just being you.
As a certified One of Many™ women’s coach, I blend Internal Family Systems and trauma-informed principles into my work. My approach is grounded in radical self-acceptance and real-world strategies—because understanding your brain is the key to working with it, not against it.
You don’t have to keep pushing through–you can build a life that truly works for you!
How we can work together
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
Wherever you are on your autism journey—questioning, self-diagnosed, or professionally diagnosed—I can help you untangle everything that’s been keeping you stuck and start trusting yourself.
I work with women and non-binary folk who were socialised as female.
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Personal insights to help you make sense of your emotions
Map out your needs session
A one-off 60-minute call to help you understand what you really need—and how to start giving it to yourself
Figuring yourself out
A 12-session in-depth journey to rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your real self, and finally feel at home in who you are
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What my clients are saying
It felt such a safe space that I could be totally honest and be heard and understood
The coaching experience with Ellen was magical; it felt such a safe space that I could be totally honest and be heard and understood.
Ellen helped me to move forward and to unpick things that I often had not even been aware of. I am kinder to myself than I was before. I am also bolder, more adventurous, more courageous.
I care less about what others think, I appreciate myself more, and I understand myself much more.
I feel so much more in control of my feelings and my destiny
After over a year of feeling not like myself and struggling with stress and anxiety… I was feeling stuck in terms of moving forward.
I found Ellen’s coaching really worked for me. I learnt a lot about acceptance and I really benefited from trying different ways to explore barriers I was facing.
Just want to say thank you again for the support. I feel so much more in control of my feelings and my destiny.
I always walk away feeling lighter!
Ellen is an attentive and intuitive coach. I feel listened to and supported wherever I am at.
The work we did around childhood story, emotional regulation and leadership was particularly insightful for me and has started me on a personal journey of deeper learning about myself.
I’m looking forward to our next session – I always walk away feeling lighter!
I felt honoured, heard and supported
It’s been a brilliant journey that has certainly helped navigate some big challenges. I felt honoured, heard and supported.
The big win was having a strategy to prepare for visiting my Dad. This is the most stressful relationship I have had in my life.
Ellen was able to transform this visit by supporting me into creating a plan to prepare for the visit and to look after myself when I return home.
Coincidence or not, the Christmas visit was the best, most stress free visit of my life.
Let’s stay in touch
Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do