Do you struggle to identify your feelings?

It has been validating to find that others have the same challenges that I do, and encouraging that there are ways to overcome them.

Importantly, it was tailored and not a “one approach fits all” environment.

I really appreciate that Ellen is so aware of these points and goes to such lengths to ensure that everyone got something meaningful from the experience, whatever their starting point and previous experiences.

I’d really recommend working with Ellen if you’re interested in experiencing your feelings more fully, especially as a late-diagnosed autistic / ADHD person. She really gets it.

…as previously I have always treated these as detrimental personality flaws and shamed myself by invalidating the ‘size’ of the response.

[Now I stop] regularly to actually check in with my body rather than assuming (or convincing myself) I should be fine.

I would recommend [the Self-Attunement Circle] most highly!!

Particularly for those who struggle to identify their own feelings in order to take any action, and especially for those, like myself, who are caught in the alexithymic to self shame of percieved personality flaws, because the traditional feelings wheels don’t align with us or actually produce real understanding.

It has taken away a layer of anxiety. I can identify my feelings more accurately and in more detail and therefore know what to do to help me move through them and find reasons for them.

I have realised that I have not understood overwhelm in myself and have been ascribing emotions to what is actially overwhelm.

This is totally different to my previous understanding of what I thought I was feeling and why.

[Ellen was] calm, measured, thoughtful, informative, respectful, kind. The personalised feedback is brilliant!

I LOVED the feelings grid! That is the one thing that I come back to time and time again, especially when I need help in identifying my emotions.

…I have been coming to realise that so many of the emotions i identify with aren’t actually mine. They are other people’s that I feel the responsibility to resolve.

Now I realise that I lived in situations that I didn’t understand were overstimulating (because I was told they weren’t).

The ‘anxiety’ is actually nervous system reacting to what it sees as lack of safety due to knowing it’s actually overstimulating and dysregulating, and the anger is the adrenaline i use to overcome the anxiety and being angry gets shit done.

And then there’s the shame of being a perpetually anxious angery person that I didn’t want to be.

Now I understand this, and have spent the summer testing this theory after the attunement circle, I’m not actually that person at all.

I truly think that it has helped me in a way that lots of other courses haven’t.

Although it felt quite gentle at the time (and wasn’t packed with too much info like a lot of other stuff I have done), the daily repeated practice has certainly had an impact on my brain and mental health in a very real (and good) way!

It’s through the Feelings Grid that was produced by Feelings Unjumbled as part of the Attunement Circle that I have had the opportunity to more easily begin to identify what my own feelings actually are.

And begin to notice how different my internal state is when compared to that which I actively show.

I have to say that those little check ins, without preemption of the the jump to the ‘should’, are now a multiple times a day feature.

And the mismatch between the externally presented performance and the actually authentic, without the need for logical justification, are sometimes very stark.

“Masterclass” isn’t strong enough to describe it! Y’all need the replay!

It helped me pause and think about how we can work towards recognising what we’re feeling, why we’re feeling it and how some presentations don’t match the word we give the feeling.

Diversity Doodles created some awesome artwork for the webinar too, and the discussion afterwards was really interesting and engaging!

Soooo… If you don’t follow them, go and show them some love.

I’ve just taken you quiz.

I love the way you have worded things. I just assume everything is Anxiety, but it made me truly think about what it is I am feeling by the way I am behaving.  Doom scrolling etc.

The result is very informative and helpful

A few of the questions didn’t quite fit my experience but I could find the closest possible response easily enough.

The result felt surprisingly accurate. I’m generally very aware of my feelings but I can also see how often I try to squash them down or move past them quickly and focus on resolutions instead.

I thought the quiz was put together with a lot of care and insight. It gave me a few things to reflect on which is always the sign of a good quiz. Thank you for creating it 🫂❤️

If you’ve ever struggled to know what you’re feeling because your body gives you a confusing jumble of information that you don’t know how to process, then you NEED this.

Ellen’s free quiz gives you the tool you need to start learning how your feelings work and some guidance on what to do next. FOR FREE.

And my therapist might appreciate you too.

I love how the grid is presented. It’s almost like the feelings wheel and a bit like a flow chart (only a bit).

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Beautifully held and expertly guided.

Ellen has a calm and kind manner and listens deeply not only to what you say but also to what you don’t say. She holds up a mirror to your internal world so you can see what’s really going on.

She asks powerful questions and can get to the heart of the matter quickly and safely. supporting you the whole way through.

I liked your approach, you spotted things I wasn’t necessarily aware of.

Happy we’ve delved into my values and have well established practice of noticing moments of joy. It was great.

Ellen holds a beautiful space where I felt it was possible to step comfortably into vulnerability without feeling exposed.

With Ellen, I was able to address some issues that I’d been suppressing for many decades! I was able to reach a deeper awareness and greater insight to my challenges.

This meant that I could shift from being held in a place of grief, loss and sadness with attachments to blame, shame and guilt to embrace compassion, forgiveness and focus on moving forward.

The coaching experience with Ellen was magical; it felt such a safe space that I could be totally honest and be heard and understood.

Ellen helped me to move forward and to unpick things that I often had not even been aware of. I am kinder to myself than I was before. I am also bolder, more adventurous, more courageous.

I care less about what others think, I appreciate myself more, and I understand myself much more.

After over a year of feeling not like myself and struggling with stress and anxiety… I was feeling stuck in terms of moving forward.

I found Ellen’s coaching really worked for me. I learnt a lot about acceptance and I really benefited from trying different ways to explore barriers I was facing.

Just want to say thank you again for the support. I feel so much more in control of my feelings and my destiny.

Ellen is an attentive and intuitive coach. I feel listened to and supported wherever I am at.

The work we did around childhood story, emotional regulation and leadership was particularly insightful for me and has started me on a personal journey of deeper learning about myself.

I’m looking forward to our next session – I always walk away feeling lighter!

It’s been a brilliant journey that has certainly helped navigate some big challenges. I felt honoured, heard and supported.

The big win was having a strategy to prepare for visiting my Dad. This is the most stressful relationship I have had in my life.

Ellen was able to transform this visit by supporting me into creating a plan to prepare for the visit and to look after myself when I return home.

Coincidence or not, the Christmas visit was the best, most stress free visit of my life.